If she works with you, and the two of you are assigned to the same project, don’t ask her to eat lunch with you or offer her a ride home. Sometimes this isn’t possible, but do it when you can. Don’t dwell on her beauty by stealing glances. Starve this attraction by bouncing your eyes (which means to “build a reflex action by training your eyes to immediately bounce away from the sexual, like the jerk of your hand away from the hot stove”). You saw her passing your corral, and you were physically attracted to her. How can you make sure this will happen? BOUNCE YOUR EYES. The attraction will begin to starve, and she’ll drift back toward the horizon. With your mind-set transformed, you won’t let her near the corral. What did Captain Kirk do when danger approached? He cried out: Red alert! Shields up! Without hesitation, you’d step up to the door and stand erect, ready to confront the threat.Ĭonsider the old Star Trek television series. Would you relax and back away from the door? Not on your life. One night, five men in black leather loudly roar up on motorcycle, looking surly and arrogant. Suppose you’re a bouncer at a dance club, checking I.D.s and tickets, joking with the customers. The third line of defense is to heighten your alert.What do you normally do when you feel threatened? You take off your jacket and breathe deeply. You don’t even know this woman who are you to be attracted to her? Didn’t your Master give you your wife? State this to yourself clearly, decisively, and often. Your second line of defense is to declare, I have no right to think these things. Even if your marriage manages to survive, at the very least the lurking will weaken the foundation of your marriage and rob your wife of your full captivation. Remember, though, that attractions grow quickly and can destroy your marriage. It may not appear threatening early in the attraction, when everything seems innocent. If you find someone attractive, your first line of defense is a proper mind-set, which is this: This attraction threatens everything I hold dear. It would help spread the show so more people can practice putting their families first.QUESTION: What do you do if you find someone attractive-other than your spouse? What if you find that you have a wandering eye? ANSWER: If you enjoy the Family First podcast, please rate it on iTunes with a short review. If you’d like to ask me a question for future episodes, head to my podcast question page. If you enjoyed this podcast, please subscribe: Steve Arterburn’s books: Every Man’s Battle Every Young Man’s Battle Preparing Your Son for Every Young Man’s Battle. To purchase a copy of Steve’s book Every Man’s Battle, click here. Take the Dare! 30-Day Sexual Integrity Challenge Protect your character with the accountability of other healthy men – authentically, honestly.Ĭall for help in your struggle with sexual integriy: 1-800 New Life
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